The social media world is one intriguing place – a place some of us stalk old friends, ex-boyfriends, find fashion inspiration, follow people we look up to, and for some of us, a platform in which we can make money. But one thing that I find so fascinating about social media is that by following a person, you do start to feel like you know them despite in many cases, not having met them. I’ve been wanting to publish a Q&A post for a while now, and thought it was about time I got my ass around to doing it so you Queens can know a little bit more about me.
What filter do you use on your imagery?
So, if you didn’t already know, I’m a complete perfectionist and I think this is one of the main reasons I haven’t hired a photographer – I like editing my own photographs and having complete control over what I’m putting out there to the world. While I don’t have a really OCD colour scheme and place for each image and a desire for them all to be in a specific order, recently, I have started using an app called Rookie Cam which allows you to put filters over your images and my go-to texture is number 1. There’s something about this filter that gives that retro vibe and since using it, I now can’t imagine an image without it.
How did you first get into blogging?
Remember the episode in Sex and the City where Carrie Bradshaw said that she was broke and instead of getting food would buy Vogue? This was literally me back at university but instead of Vogue, it was an endless amount of clothing. However, because of the workload I only started my blog after I finished studying which was a huge mistake and I always regret. I remember following Rumi Neeley on Instagram and thinking, this is something I can do. Each photo made her life look amazing and I was obsessed with the idea of portraying your life through images. However, thinking back, I definitely didn’t anticipate how much work being a blogger really is.
Why don’t you put your relationship on social very often?
I feel like I get this question quite a lot and while I touched on it a little in my previous post, I thought it was a good one to include in this Q&A. In all honesty, there isn’t a real reason for me not putting my relationship out there. Me and Dan haven’t sat down and had a serious conversation about him not being featured on my Instagram. I don’t think either of us are massively into PDA and while I share all other aspects of my life which I’m really happy to, it’s nice to keep the odd thing a little more private – enter Dan. I don’t know about anybody else, but couples that constantly put each other on their social isn’t what I’m about, I never really have been. That isn’t to say that sometimes I don’t want to put him on IG stories and trust me – it ain’t happening. He grabs the phone off me before I even get the chance to hit record. However, regardless of all of this, maybe I might start taking the odd picture of us followed by the #couplegoals hash tag.
How do you split your time between Manchester and Nottingham?
I like this question – whoever asked it, congrats’. When it comes to planning, I’m very much into being organised and knowing what I’m doing this week, next week and the week after next. I think because Dan and I had a long-distance relationship for so long, it really got me into being organised and I became a planning nerd. Just as spending time with him and my friends in Manchester, seeing my family and friends back home is just as important and I make sure I go home every three weeks and squeeze as much as I can in. Admittedly, my sister is a beautician and does all of my treatments so like any true beauty addict, I also make sure I go back to get these done.
What do you look for in a friend?
When it comes to friendship, I’m one of those people that if I’m your friend, I’m your friend for life – ride and die type of gal’. With that in mind, I think I do set my friends to a high standard and just like in a relationship, I won’t settle for a friend that isn’t really a friend. Throughout the years, this has meant distancing myself from certain people and when you cut somebody off, whether it’s your man or your girlfriend, it is genuinely like going through a break up – I’m sure many of you know what I’m talking about. This isn’t to say that I’m some psycho friend, but at twenty-five, I know what I want in my friends and why waste time on people who don’t know what the definition of a friend is? I think all of my friends are completely different and I love that. When you have one friend you can go to when you are in the mood to have a laugh, a girlfriend you can talk to about anything, a friend who loves the same things you do, somebody you can be your true self with and act as stupid as you want with no judgement you are incredibly lucky.
How would you describe your style?
I would say that my style is forever changing and isn’t representative of one specific trend. As a fashion influencer, I always follow trends and implement these into my wardrobe in whatever way I feel comfortable. I love taking risks with what I wear and if people look at me with that, ‘what the f are you wearing’ stare, then that’s just an added bonus.
What is body confidence to you?
I would say, that similar to many women, one thing I have always struggled with is body confidence and perceiving my body as beautiful. Seeing that written down is actually really therapeutic. While I can say there are things I like about myself, because I am a perfectionist, I’m insanely critical of myself and it’s those things that aren’t (in my opinion) how I want them to be/look that are the first things I point out on a picture or in the mirror. For example, my thighs and stomach are areas I would love to change if I could. I think as women, this is a universal feeling though. I haven’t ever met a female who is 100% happy with her body. When it comes to body confidence, I’m learning that curves really are sexy and this is what I’ve been given so why not start embracing it.
What are the worst/best parts of being a blogger?
As with any job, there are always things you love and things you don’t – being an influencer is no exception. I think it’s pretty self-explanatory that receiving gifts and clothing from brands every week is a huge positive. Being able to be as creative as you want is something I personally love about my job and not being tied to a desk is another obvious plus. I think as somebody who is naturally social, sharing my looks, thoughts, feelings with other people is something I absolutely love about being an influencer. In terms of the not-so-good aspects, waiting for brands to pay invoices has become the bane of my life. Sometimes you have to remind people that you have bills to pay and still, they don’t pay on time. Justifying that being an influencer, while it has it’s positives, is a full time job can also be super stressful. Finally, even though I am busy, you can end up spending quite a lot of time alone and I make it my mission to get out of the apartment as much as I can when I work so it doesn’t just become samey’.
What are your top three make-up saviour every-day tips?
Okay, so this one is easy. If you haven’t already got a finishing powder, you need to go out (go now) and get one – I use Laura Geller Finish Baked Radiant Setting Powder. How I lived without one of these for so many years I honestly have no idea. This really does prolong the longevity of your make up and keeps everything in place. Primer is an absolute must and a beauty staple I swear by – especially if you want a luminous and dewy finish. I use Becca Backlight Priming Filter. Finally, my third tip would be that you start using a white eyeliner. I know I’ve made reference to this a lot on my Instagram recently and honestly it’s such an amazing addition to your beauty regime – I use NYX White Eyeliner.
What is one thing your followers wouldn’t know about you?
Oh gosh, where do I even begin. I feel like I have lots of weird things I haven’t and probably wouldn’t share with everybody publicly but, one thing people wouldn’t know is that at twenty-five, I still don’t drive – it’s hideous. I did three tests when I was 18 and haven’t dared to do another since. I think in actual fact, the word phobia comes into play.
What’s the most challenging thing about blogging?
I’m glad somebody asked me this question as I think it’s really important to show people that blogging can be really difficult at times. I would say that the Instagram algorithm has made all influencers lives ten million times more difficult. Why Instagram changed the chronological order I have no idea but getting exposure and making sure your followers have seen all of your content is a lot more challenging now. How can you stay relevant if people aren’t seeing anything you upload? Another thing I have, and still struggle with is not knowing why some content does so well and other content doesn’t do as well. It makes you start questioning yourself and definitely affects your self-esteem. I think I need to accept that I have no control over it and I should just publish whatever I want regardless of likes but that’s much easier said than done.
Do you still suffer from anxiety attacks?
I wanted to include this question, as it’s a super personal one and also, if you have read any of my other previous posts surrounding anxiety, I’m an advocate in spreading awareness. I think if you have ever had anxiety attacks, or suffer from on-going anxiety, it will always be with you to a certain degree. However, I can personally say that since having CT (cognitive therapy) a few years ago, mine have definitely improved and lessened as times gone on. This isn’t to say that it would work for everyone but I found it really helpful and it encouraged me to think about and perceive things in a different way. There has been the occasional time where it’s came on but as an overall it’s a rarity – touch wood. One very memorable moment was last year when Dan and I were out for a meal with friends and all of a sudden I felt like I was going to be sick at the table. I ended up having to go outside to get some fresh air and couldn’t stomach my meal which was bloody brilliant as you can imagine! Why this happened I have absolutely no idea and this is what flaws me when it comes to anxiety – the ‘why’ is the most frustrating and confusing part. Since putting less pressure on myself when and if it happens, I have found it to come on much less often. I think sometimes if you are really focused on it, it can make it a lot worse.