With Mother’s Day on the horizon – a day dedicated solely to celebrating our mama’s and the fact that they gave us life, it’s got me thinking about all of the things that really matter in life. I don’t know about you but I’m certainly guilty of wasting time and energy on situations/people/worries that in the grand scheme of things, don’t really matter. As human’s, I think it’s only normal (though I don’t really like to use that word), that we can’t always let things go over our heads. When it comes to time, we really are in limited supply, I mean there’s only 24 hours in a day and when you take out the eight or so for sleeping that doesn’t leave us with an endless amount does it? Case in point, when you think about how precious our time is, it seems foolish to waste any of that on unimportant situations. Of course, this is much easier said than done and when you yourself are in the situation, getting perspective is really difficult.
After careful speculation, and research on the internet, I believe I am a ‘timeist’. I know what you’re thinking, what the f is that? Basically, this means that you hate anybody that wastes your time, as to you, time is precious. When I say this, I’m making reference to people that exhaust your time over stupid shit. Within the last year, I think I finally know who I am, in all of my forms, and one thing I’ve learnt is to avoid time-wasters. In the past, I’ve certainly been lured into girl drama, boy drama and any Mean Girls situation you can imagine. I’m not saying that I’ve always been an angel myself, but at twenty-five, I’ve realised that I need to focus my attention on completely different things – the things that actually matter.
Obviously I’m not a single lady, so I live vicariously through my girlfriends – which admittedly, never gets boring. Hearing their experiences with men continues to flaw me and the good ol’, ‘I haven’t heard from him’ never gets old. Here’s a prime example of somebody that doesn’t deserve your time. If a guy takes you out, and doesn’t call the next day – he’s not even worth thinking about let alone wasting time and energy on. Let’s just get real for a moment, why do men actually do this? We aren’t in high school anymore, not that it should even have been acceptable back then, but if a guy in his twenties doesn’t have the balls to just be honest, is he really a man or instead, a boy? I’ve somehow ended up on a complete slay rampage here but when it comes to our time being in limited supply, a guy that doesn’t appreciate your worth, ain’t worth spending the time on.
Similarly, a friend that doesn’t understand the definition of friendship and what that entails isn’t worth using any of your time and energy on. Look, we’ve all been there – we’ve all fought for friendships that weren’t really worth fighting for, attempting to rekindle that BFF bond. Usually, if you end up doubting somebody so much so that you have to actually question whether they are your friend, were they ever your friend in the first place? As a girl who went to school (obvz), college and uni, I have found myself in many similar situations throughout the years and have 100% wasted time and energy on people, that looking back, were definitely not worth it. Let’s be honest, when you no longer have your best friend around, it’s legit’ like any other break up and its awful. At the time you feel like you have lost your partner in crime, your ride or die, your soul sister and filling that void isn’t easy. Like in any relationship, if the trust is broken, it’s done. This isn’t to say to dispose of friends like you do tissues over little disputes and fights, we are talking about if they turn out to be a Regina George type or really betray you.
Getting back to my post – my mum recently had a health scare and I’m not going to go into it and reveal all of the in’s and out’s as it’s her experience and not mine, but it has definitely made me appreciate her even more. I think when you are challenged by the fear of something so important, it puts everything else into perspective and really makes you reevaluate what matters and where your attention, time and energy should be spent. With that in mind, this Mother’s Day, my mama is getting treated like a Queen. When Debenhams reached out to me and asked me to pick some gifts for the occasion, I couldn’t resist. Usually my sister and I get her some chocolates and flowers, but, this Mother’s Day we wanted to go all out and get some gifts that entailed all of her favourite things. You can’t go wrong with perfume and the new Viktor & Rolf Flowerbomb Nectar was a no-brainer. When it comes to skincare, my mum is all over that and I knew she would (she hasn’t tried it before) like the Elizabeth Arden Eight Hour Cream skin protectant moisturiser. Finally, as a self-confessed GlamGlow addict, the GLAMGLOW Supermud Clearing Treatment skincare mask seemed like the best little pick-me-up.
For anybody struggling with gift ideas for Mother’s Day – head over to Debenhams now for some serious gift inspiration and don’t forget to make your mama feel like a total babe this Sunday.